Communication

Antidotes for the Worrying Mind

5 Ways to Show Your Partner You Care — Just by Being Mindful

For better or worse, we’ve inherited a worrying brain. This was really good news for our ancestors, who had to survive harsh conditions and constant predators and did so by being able to pay close attention to potential threats and dangers. But this is not so helpful for us modern humans though, who can find ourselves pulled into future “what ...

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What Does Your Apology Say About You?

What Does Your Apology Say About You?

“A meaningful apology is one that communicates three R’s: regret, responsibility and remedy.” – Beverly Engel When you say that you’re sorry to another person whom you’ve wronged, or who believes you’ve wronged them, what does your apology say about you? Is that even important? Doesn’t the fact that you deliver the apology in the first place hold greater weight? After ...

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Does Your Relationship Have Positive or Negative Power Struggles?

5 Ways to Show Your Partner You Care — Just by Being Mindful

Relationships can be complicated. Ultimately you hope to have a balanced relationship where each person cares about the other and all is equitable. Often, however, couples find themselves engaged in power struggles with each other within the relationship. Depending upon how these are handled they can either result in growth, or stand in the way of being truly connected and happy. ...

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How to Be a Real Friend

How to Be a Real Friend

“A real friend is one who walks in when the rest of the world walks out.” – Walter Winchell If you can count the number of real friends you have on one hand, you’re rich, indeed. If you have more than five, perhaps you’re even more blessed. But what if you don’t think you have any real friends, people you ...

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What So Many of Us Get Wrong About Assertiveness

What So Many of Us Get Wrong About Assertiveness

Most of us are familiar with the term “assertive.” We have a general idea of what being assertive means. But that doesn’t mean we fully understand it. And, in our society, many myths still abound, which adds another layer of confusion. Which is a problem, because these misconceptions can lead us to stay silent about our needs, stew in our ...

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Are Babies Able to Reason Before They Talk?

Passing it On

The famous Swiss developmental psychologist, Jean Piaget, believed that children begin to acquire the ability to reason between the ages of four and seven. Those who have taken a child development course will likely remember the conservation of matter experiment, where children younger than seven are not likely to understand that a beaker of water poured into a tall, thin ...

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How to Slowly Wean Yourself Off Your Smartphone

5 Ways to Show Your Partner You Care — Just by Being Mindful

Cell phone addiction may not be formally recognized, but for many people the thought of going somewhere without their phone is inconceivable at best. It can cause a lot of anxiety, stress and worry. As we become more and more dependent on cell phones to connect with others, organize our time, and track down information, it can seem impossible to ...

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The Language of Narcissists

The Language of Narcissists

Communicating with someone who has narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) can be confusing. Facial expressions don’t always match the situation and even what is communicated through words can feel irrelevant or crazy-making. Language is one of the key tools of manipulation for someone diagnosed with NPD. When two non-disordered people engage in conversation, they talk to each other. When someone with NPD ...

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Can You Unfriend a Person Without Demonizing Them?

Can You Unfriend a Person Without Demonizing Them?

Never in my six decades have I been witness to such great divide between people of various socio-political stripes. Even the Vietnam war, with its protests and the slogans spouted by the young about not trusting anyone over 30 and the older set not trusting long-haired hippies, didn’t tear relationships asunder as is the case now. Stanford Law School professor ...

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