Perfectionism

7 Myths about Parenting that Can Make You Miserable

5 Ways to Show Your Partner You Care — Just by Being Mindful

If anyone tells you their parents were perfect in every way, they are either terribly mistaken, lying, or their parents were angels in disguise. No parent is perfect. I’m not. You are not. The parents of our various cultural heroes weren’t either. Sometimes even the experts on parenting make a mess of things with their own kids. Being imperfect comes ...

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How to Reconnect with the Things You Used to Love

How to Reconnect with the Things You Used to Love

We quit things we love because we believe ourselves unworthy. Have you given up things you love? Not things you loved, past tense, then honestly stopped loving — such as keg parties or Angry Birds. I mean things — places, topics, whatever — you still love, but let go. Maybe you told yourself you didn’t love them anymore so move ...

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How to Be Kind to Yourself

How to Be Kind to Yourself

We tend to think that we have to earn self-kindness. That is, in order to be kind to ourselves, we must meet certain conditions. We must not make mistakes. We must work out five times a week. No exceptions. We must keep a tidy, organized home. We must make “healthy” meals. We must check off everything on our to-do list. ...

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Why It’s Good That You’re Not Perfect

Why It’s Good That You’re Not Perfect

“Understanding the difference between healthy striving and perfectionism is critical to laying down the shield and picking up your life. Research shows that perfectionism hampers success. In fact, it’s often the path to depression, anxiety, addiction, and life paralysis.” – Brené Brown It’s practically a universal fact that almost everyone wants to get ahead. If I’m being honest, I must confess ...

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What Role Does a Difficult Past Play in Your Life Now?

5 Ways to Show Your Partner You Care — Just by Being Mindful

For many individuals, the past is not past but remains an ever-present influence in their present life. Even though the physical effects of past events often demand more attention, the psychological legacy may be much more difficult to move on from. If past events are processed as experiences to learn from and grow as a person, pain and upset can ...

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How to Be Mindful (Even if You’re Anxious or Impatient)

How to Be Mindful (Even if You’re Anxious or Impatient)

The world really wants us to count our blessings. News articles and blog posts tout the many benefits of gratitude, from improved health to better sleep and happier moods. Entrepreneurs and business behemoths like Oprah Winfrey swear by gratitude journals as a solution to stress and the secret to their success. But practicing gratitude doesn’t come naturally to everyone — myself included. For one ...

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Do You Practice Savior Behavior?

Do You Practice Savior Behavior?

A few years ago, I had a delusion that I was Wonder Woman incarnate and penned these words: “I am thrilled to say that my invisible Wonder Woman cape and tights are in the Jeep (along with my faerie wings, which are tangible and colorful) and I don them less often these days. Once upon a time, they were standard wear for this ...

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3 Ways Highly Successful People Handle Self-Doubt

3 Ways Highly Successful People Handle Self-Doubt

Think about the last time you felt fear and anxiety take control of your day. Maybe it stopped you from speaking up in a meeting because you felt like your opinion wasn’t worthwhile. Perhaps a simple email took you hours to write because your inner-critic kept telling you it wasn’t good enough — that you weren’t good enough. Despite a ...

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