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How to Reconnect with the Things You Used to Love

How to Reconnect with the Things You Used to Love

We quit things we love because we believe ourselves unworthy. Have you given up things you love? Not things you loved, past tense, then honestly stopped loving — such as keg parties or Angry Birds. I mean things — places, topics, whatever — you still love, but let go. Maybe you told yourself you didn’t love them anymore so move ...

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6 Ways to Stop Absorbing Other People’s Emotions

5 Ways to Show Your Partner You Care — Just by Being Mindful

“Sometimes I think I need a spare heart to feel all the things I feel.” — Sanober Khan I felt her agony and loneliness as if it were my own. Even as I write that sentence, my eyes well up and heaviness fills my heart. Then, I’m reminded to apply the advice I give others. My mom was a special ...

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Kindness Counts

Kindness Counts

“My religion is simple. My religion is kindness.”- the Dalai Lama Kindness is: “a behavior marked by ethical characteristics, a pleasant disposition, and a concern for others,” according to Wikipedia.  It implies that other people matter as much as we do to ourselves. It indicates that we are not alone on the Big Blue Marble and that what affects one ...

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Why It’s Good That You’re Not Perfect

Why It’s Good That You’re Not Perfect

“Understanding the difference between healthy striving and perfectionism is critical to laying down the shield and picking up your life. Research shows that perfectionism hampers success. In fact, it’s often the path to depression, anxiety, addiction, and life paralysis.” – Brené Brown It’s practically a universal fact that almost everyone wants to get ahead. If I’m being honest, I must confess ...

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Out of Our Heads and into Our Lives

Out of Our Heads and into Our Lives

You know those thoughts that run in continuous loops through your head? The ones where you’re replaying something that’s happened or imagining something that might? You know, the ones you’re having all the time? Well, guess what? Contrary to what most of us believe, those thoughts are not the same thing as reality. They’re just thoughts. They’re stories we tell ...

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Using Anxiety as a Signal to Increase Emotional Health

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I was at my dentist’s office the other day when I heard the assistant, I’ll call her Emily, talking with the office receptionist. Emily asked her boyfriend to buy her an anxiety cube. My ears perked up when I heard the word “anxiety” so I asked how the cube worked and if she suffered with a lot of anxiety. She ...

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How to Be Mindful (Even if You’re Anxious or Impatient)

How to Be Mindful (Even if You’re Anxious or Impatient)

The world really wants us to count our blessings. News articles and blog posts tout the many benefits of gratitude, from improved health to better sleep and happier moods. Entrepreneurs and business behemoths like Oprah Winfrey swear by gratitude journals as a solution to stress and the secret to their success. But practicing gratitude doesn’t come naturally to everyone — myself included. For one ...

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Seize the Day — Your Own Way

Seize the Day — Your Own Way

“Live life to the fullest.” “Celebrate life.” “Carpe diem.” I’ve heard them all. But what if I don’t feel like it? What if I’m having a lousy brain day, restricted to a darkened room with a blinding headache, and seizing the day is not an option? I have clusters of malformed blood vessels called cavernous angiomas in my brain. Two ...

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Do You Practice Savior Behavior?

Do You Practice Savior Behavior?

A few years ago, I had a delusion that I was Wonder Woman incarnate and penned these words: “I am thrilled to say that my invisible Wonder Woman cape and tights are in the Jeep (along with my faerie wings, which are tangible and colorful) and I don them less often these days. Once upon a time, they were standard wear for this ...

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