self-compassion

Antidotes for the Worrying Mind

5 Ways to Show Your Partner You Care — Just by Being Mindful

For better or worse, we’ve inherited a worrying brain. This was really good news for our ancestors, who had to survive harsh conditions and constant predators and did so by being able to pay close attention to potential threats and dangers. But this is not so helpful for us modern humans though, who can find ourselves pulled into future “what ...

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How to Reconnect with the Things You Used to Love

How to Reconnect with the Things You Used to Love

We quit things we love because we believe ourselves unworthy. Have you given up things you love? Not things you loved, past tense, then honestly stopped loving — such as keg parties or Angry Birds. I mean things — places, topics, whatever — you still love, but let go. Maybe you told yourself you didn’t love them anymore so move ...

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How to Be Kind to Yourself

How to Be Kind to Yourself

We tend to think that we have to earn self-kindness. That is, in order to be kind to ourselves, we must meet certain conditions. We must not make mistakes. We must work out five times a week. No exceptions. We must keep a tidy, organized home. We must make “healthy” meals. We must check off everything on our to-do list. ...

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Do You Practice Savior Behavior?

Do You Practice Savior Behavior?

A few years ago, I had a delusion that I was Wonder Woman incarnate and penned these words: “I am thrilled to say that my invisible Wonder Woman cape and tights are in the Jeep (along with my faerie wings, which are tangible and colorful) and I don them less often these days. Once upon a time, they were standard wear for this ...

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