Self-Help

7 Myths about Parenting that Can Make You Miserable

5 Ways to Show Your Partner You Care — Just by Being Mindful

If anyone tells you their parents were perfect in every way, they are either terribly mistaken, lying, or their parents were angels in disguise. No parent is perfect. I’m not. You are not. The parents of our various cultural heroes weren’t either. Sometimes even the experts on parenting make a mess of things with their own kids. Being imperfect comes ...

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The Best Way to Effect Change

can we ever really change

“If you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.” – Wayne Dyer When something’s not right and you want it to change, there are several ways to go about it. No doubt you want to tailor your actions, so they reflect the best way to effect change. While taking the initiative and acting may ...

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Antidotes for the Worrying Mind

5 Ways to Show Your Partner You Care — Just by Being Mindful

For better or worse, we’ve inherited a worrying brain. This was really good news for our ancestors, who had to survive harsh conditions and constant predators and did so by being able to pay close attention to potential threats and dangers. But this is not so helpful for us modern humans though, who can find ourselves pulled into future “what ...

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How to Reconnect with the Things You Used to Love

How to Reconnect with the Things You Used to Love

We quit things we love because we believe ourselves unworthy. Have you given up things you love? Not things you loved, past tense, then honestly stopped loving — such as keg parties or Angry Birds. I mean things — places, topics, whatever — you still love, but let go. Maybe you told yourself you didn’t love them anymore so move ...

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5 Ways to Declutter Your Brain this Spring

Spring Renewal: 5 Ways to Reawaken Your Spirit and Get a Fresh Start

The coming of spring always feels like a time of renewal and awakening. People often use it as a reason to spring clean their homes and offices, making things feel fresh, clean and new. Reorganizing all your closets, cupboards, and drawers can help you feel re-energized in the moment, but don’t dismiss or neglect your mind — that needs a ...

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6 Ways to Stop Absorbing Other People’s Emotions

5 Ways to Show Your Partner You Care — Just by Being Mindful

“Sometimes I think I need a spare heart to feel all the things I feel.” — Sanober Khan I felt her agony and loneliness as if it were my own. Even as I write that sentence, my eyes well up and heaviness fills my heart. Then, I’m reminded to apply the advice I give others. My mom was a special ...

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Venting Too Much Can Actually Make Stress Worse

Venting Too Much Can Actually Make Stress Worse

Here’s why. Getting things off your chest is a positive thing, isn’t it? It feels good to vent about your stress or problems to caring friends or post your worries on social media and is a go-to strategy for how to feel better. Doing so provides a release, support, validates your feelings and you get to hear everyone else’s horror ...

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A Serious Postpartum Disorder You Probably Haven’t Heard About

A Serious Postpartum Disorder You Probably Haven’t Heard About

Within 24 hours of her second daughter’s birth, Dyane Harwood felt elated. From the moment she came home from the hospital, she started writing. Furiously. She wrote while nursing her daughter and going to the bathroom. She wrote on her hands, on the bathroom mirror, inside books and on tabletops. She yearned to write down every thought she was having. ...

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What Does Your Apology Say About You?

What Does Your Apology Say About You?

“A meaningful apology is one that communicates three R’s: regret, responsibility and remedy.” – Beverly Engel When you say that you’re sorry to another person whom you’ve wronged, or who believes you’ve wronged them, what does your apology say about you? Is that even important? Doesn’t the fact that you deliver the apology in the first place hold greater weight? After ...

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3 Ways to Repair and Rebuild Your Relationships

5 Ways to Show Your Partner You Care — Just by Being Mindful

When trying to repair a relationship — even with yourself — take these intentional steps. In my last blog, I shared the five stages of relationship demise that we tend to unintentionally engage in when we encounter challenges in our relationships. The good news is that there is an alternative. Einstein said, “We can’t solve problems from the same mindset ...

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